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  1. Great interview. I’ve never heard of this author, but the part about work people being “just like family” is really interesting. Like the concept of “work-wives” and “work husbands”.

    1. yesss I thought so too! She addresses some very timely topics in this book so I’m glad she spoke to them so well.

  2. I liked that bit about ‘just like family’ too – rang a few bells. Especially the work relationships which can feel so intense when everyone’s under pressure, but tend to disappear without trace once someone moves on to a different job. I think Kate’s spot on about employers cultivating that kind of environment for ultimately self-serving reasons. When push comes to shove, it still tends to be blood kin who are there to pick up the pieces…

    1. ain’t that the truth! And it’s funny how we praise workplaces for trying to create that ‘family’ vibe, but really it is manipulative when you look at it a different way!

  3. “But obviously, they aren’t family, and we mistake them for our family at our peril.

    In the context of work, I’m interested in how we can justify harmful work addictions (in extreme cases) by characterizing our work community as family.”

    This part of the interview really stuck with me. I tend to look at the abuses some family members unfailingly offer to their relatives and wonder why other relationships can’t be better than family. Then again, this proves the point of the author (I think), that no relationships are like family. I guess at first that was a positive things…but now as I’m typing, not all family relationships are great.

    There are a lot of things I do on my own time related to work because I want to. I am a professor at a very small college (always hovers around 500 students), and so I get to know the students quite well. My husband and I go to all the home games, and sometimes we go to plays or music events that students are in, or if a student’s family owns a restaurant, my husband and I go try it. Sometimes I get a funny look from my co-workers. They wonder why I do so much “free” stuff for work, but I have to say that being involved with young people and helping to shape their adult lives is really rewarding, so I never see myself as being “used.”

    On the other hand, the author mentioned “work addictions,” and now I’m a bit worried about myself!

    1. hahah Melanie, it sounds like you’re just being a good person, and an active member of your community. The addictions the author is talking about are probably more like ‘check my email every five minutes, respond to my boss’s calls immediately, regardless of time or place, etc. ”

      I don’t think you gots ANYTHING to worry about.

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